Monday, June 29, 2015

Bodywork vs. Distant Energy Healing: Which is Better?

Bodywork (like massage therapy), in-person energy healing sessions, and distant energy healing treatments are all extremely helpful in maintaining a sense of balance and keeping your body and energy healthy and clear. With so many options and different types of therapies available, the choices are almost limitless. But today I just want to chat about bodywork vs. distant energy healing. Do you ever wonder if it's better to get a healing treatment in person vs. a distant energy healing session?

Trust Your Intuition

For a while last year, I worked with a powerful healer over the phone, and the sessions were phenomenal. I could literally feel my energy shifting. Then, after a while, I started to feel like it was rushed in a way, and my energy started to stagnate. So I felt like not doing that anymore. I spoke to a couple of psychic friends who said it seemed like I specifically needed to work with female healers. I did a couple of distant energy healings with two different ladies; the first was amazing, and the second was good, too. I signed up for a third session and while it was good, it wasn't as great as the first one.

Massage Therapy

My intuition kept nagging at me that I needed to get bodywork done - actual in-person healing massage therapy. So I googled around and found a healer who sounded wonderful on the phone, and went to her for a session. It was so great I got a package of sessions right away, because my body, mind, and soul SO needed it. I hadn't had a massage since before Ivan was born (he's 3.5 now). And my body was holding on to so much stress, anxiety, and tension from that major life change, as well as work (and my work can be hard, because people usually don't go to me when they're all happy and life is perfect), that I desperately needed some actual in-person bodywork.

Age and Stress

I never was big on massages; I just never needed them. As we age, though, the effects of intense emotions and stress can wear down our bodies, and if we don't release what we're holding onto, imbalances and eventually illnesses can develop. I spend a lot of time meditating, and I exercise regularly (though not as much as I used to), but I can really tell now when I'm overwhelmed by tension and stress. I hold it in my jaw, neck, and shoulders. In fact, one day last week it was so bad my jaw actually ACHED. Yes, energy healing can help with that, and even doing my own meditations has helped, but there is something to be said for getting help from other people. You can't do everything yourself.

I realized how much my body was holding onto the stress I'd been feeling, and decided I needed another massage, though I'm still of the mindset that it's a luxury (though that is changing). The other massage therapist I'd gone to was booked up, so I tuned in and asked if an acupressure massage at my favorite Korean spa would help, and got a resounding YES. I've never had a massage there and didn't know what to expect, but this was fantastic. She really focused on my neck and shoulders, and helped my body release so much tension and pain. My body relaxed and the pain disappeared completely. I felt restored, refreshed, and renewed.

Do What You're Drawn To

Sometimes distant energy healing is exactly what you need, and other times it's more important to have someone actually touch your body and work on you in person. In the end, it's all about what you really want and what you feel will help. Before you book a session with anyone, though, do a gut-check and ask whether or not they'll be good for you. Don't just get a massage at any old place with any old person; don't just go to any old energy healer. Read reviews, ask friends, and check in with your own intuition to decide what will be best for you.

And that's my two cents!

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Do You have AWFUL Family Problems? Here's Why.

Everyone has family issues, whether you can see it on the outside or not. I hear the truth of what people are really going though in the work that I do, so I know. Nothing shocks me, and my job is to remain totally neutral, but the things I've heard would make any person really, really, really sad!

At least I've learned one HUGE spiritual truth about why we all have so much suffering related to the families we're born into.

But before that, here are a few short examples of bummer family situations:

D., 34, was adopted from India and brought to live in Bel Air as an infant. Her adoption story is the best: beautiful family, beautiful home, just a lovely childhood (although her parents fought constantly).  But since her adoptive father died, things have changed, and she is now being tormented, gossiped about, and just completely ridiculed by her adoptive mother. To the point where now her mother is telling everyone that when she dies, she doesn't want D. to come to her funeral.

R. was raised in complete poverty when her father walked out on all 7 kids when she was a baby. She's the only one of all 7 to go to college. Her mother re-married at age 65, to a man who isn't really interested in her grown up kids. Though her father is still alive, he doesn't feel responsible for either having a relationship with, or even knowing, his 7 children.

The L. family has constant in-fighting, feuds, sibling rivalries, and family warfare. Everyone has something nasty to say about everyone else, all behind each other's backs. This is the way it's always been, and this is probably the way it always will be.

S.'s mother constantly criticizes and belittles her, making comments about her weight, her failed marriage, her home, her clothes, the very essence of her being.

M.'s young stepmother pretends to treat her well, but subtly manipulates her father so that the two can't maintain their relationship. She wants the world to think she's graceful and kind and loving, but M. knows she his harboring loads of resentment, and it's causing M. to be distanced from her father, which really hurts her.

Y.'s mother died, and she never knew her aunts and uncles. When her grandmother died, they didn't think to naturally share the inheritance with motherless Y. Instead, they tried to cut her out of it completely, although she hadn't even thought to ask for anything.

My energy just plummeted writing this! What a bummer! I just told snippets of a FEW of the many true stories I've heard about family dramas. There are many more that are salacious, long-winded, and very sad.

On to the hopeful stuff.

We pick the family situations we will come into before we are born. God gave us free will, which is a HUGE big deal, so basically we can make whatever choices we want to make and do whatever we want to do in this lifetime. YAY! But we have to start with some kind of canvas, so to speak.

And many of our souls want to finish up with some karma, or solve some problems, or have some meaty issues to deal with, in order to move forward in our lives. Issues that we have to keep working on in order to learn to take the high road, raise our vibrations, say no to negativity, and honor our spirit. Major soul growth lessons!!!

So if you have AWFUL family problems, it's because you needed to in order to fulfill your purpose and mission in this life. You chose to meet these people (a-gain) and, despite the odds, create a peaceful, harmonious situation in your own heart. I stress in your own heart, because in many cases, your adversaries, family or not, will NOT let you change the dynamic into something better. It's a power thing, and they want to have the power to make things miserable or to make sure you stay unhappy.

Sometimes that means you will need to get distance from them, and that's OK, as long as you forgive, let go, and don't take it personally, no matter how personal it is.

If you've been wronged, the only thing you can do is forgive, and try to feel compassion and unconditional love, for yourself, and for them.

Holding on to any other emotion, no matter how right and justified you feel, will only cause you pain, and when you're in pain, that means you are out of sync with your God-given natural harmony. That also means the karma probably hasn't been broken, and the cycle will most likely continue. NOOOO!!!

If you learn the lesson, solve the problem, and break the cycle in this lifetime, with love and light, then you won't have to do this again next time around.

Here's to that!!!!

Do you have family problems? If so, what are they? How have you learned to deal with them? Do you find any particular technique to be helpful?

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

When Your Soul Speaks

Lately I've had this feeling that I've been learning and growing a lot. In New Agey spiritual terms it's considered to be "downloading" or "upgrading" or "shifting." Thank God, because if I had to live the rest of my life without and new insights or wisdom, that would be really be a shame.

So. Since I am pretty much always having a conversation with myself in my head, I introspect a lot. Recently I had some interesting insights and emotions come up about the past, and when I was a kid (I had your classic difficult childhood).

This morning, when I was out walking, I noticed the most incredible thing. My soul spoke, from a higher or other level, and suddenly the lens shifted and I was almost hovering above my life, realizing why things are or were the way they are or were, who people really are and why we're in each other's lives, and the great big giant reason for it all.

When your soul speaks, it's the best thing ever.

When my soul spoke this morning, it was of course not chit-chatting to me like the voice in my head does. It washed over me like a gigantic tidal wave of love, and I was humbled by it. Now, of course you and I both know love is very powerful, but love can be experienced in trifling ways, like when you love chocolate, or you love cats. Not that the love of chocolate or cats isn't freaking AMAZING, but this wave of love was so different. It was about a problem I'd been chewing over forever and ever, and I don't want to go much into it because it's about family stuff.

Last week, I was working on divination for myself, and as I'm trying to learn the iChing, I used that, in combination with tarot (because I use clairvoyance so much for work, sometimes it's easier for me to just use these other tools for my own personal questions). And I got the best insight - another "shift" or "upgrade" if you will. The message the iChing delivered was so powerful I cried. And get this - I looked back on my notes and found that when I had asked a very similar question regarding the same situation, I got the exact same two hexagrams as answers. And the odds of that happening are incredible, so this was a big, big deal.

So my mind was integrating this information, my ego was processing it and learning to let go of the pain, and my soul was there, as it always is, sitting quietly, and waiting for me to be receptive to the wave.

The tidal wave that washed over me this morning was like looking at things from the other side, when the drama of life is over and done with and we're all backstage reuniting, hugging each other and glad it's over and wasn't that the performance of a lifetime!?! Only not so much hugging each other, because when we're not here we are all really one, and if that isn't the best thing in the multi-verse I don't know what is.

I don't know how else to explain it, but I do know that when your soul speaks, you will hear it and you'll definitely feel it!

I'd love to hear about your soul experiences! Tell me! The more we talk about them, the more they happen.

Please feel free to reply in the comments below. I haven't always had the comments open on the blog, so many of you just email me back, but it's so much easier and better for everyone to see what everyone else is thinking and feeling when you comment in the comments section. Thank you!

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Bruce Jenner's Mission

The sensation around Bruce Jenner becoming Caitlyn has been in the news for a while now. Some people probably hate him/her, others are proud, and some don't care. I never watched the Kardashian show(s), but when I first heard about Bruce I thought it was another thing they were doing for money/press/etc. But as I found out more - namely, from a friend who works in the entertainment industry - and then thought about it a bit, I realized he's not doing it for that. There's a whole other thing going on here, and it's HUGE, and I'm talking soul-level, spiritual evolution huge, not ratings-and-money huge.

Bruce Jenner, with his history as one of the world's most loved and admired Olympian athletes, with his fame and his vast fortune (from even before the Kardashian show), is in a position to change the way people regard transgenders. Not only that - he's showing people how to BE THEMSELVES, no matter what the repercussions are.

Caitlyn's mission is opening her up to loads of ridicule, cruel scrutiny, and disgusted fascination. Some people are looking at her the way you look at an interesting and strange monkey on exhibit at the zoo. But other people are seeing Caitlyn as a bold, brave, strong soul, a person who is honoring her spirit no matter what the fallout is.

I have done a lot of readings and healings with transgenders, and it's hard to describe the depth and level of emotion I feel when I tap into what their purpose is here on earth. Any soul who would choose to be born into the wrong gender, who then is able to change that, is extremely strong and powerful. The pain, ridicule, alienation, and misunderstanding that many transgender people face would be enough to kill some people - and it has. But beyond all of this is another spiritual secret that I very strongly believe, and that is this: God does not really have a gender. God is both male and female. So the spirits that choose to go through gender transitions on this earth plane are on a very special mission from God. It's not one blanket mission - everyone has their own individual purpose - but it is definitely a significant one.

We are all here to do something - every soul has a mission. And no mission is insignificant. Just because you never make the cover of Vanity Fair or become the first man to walk on the moon or the first woman to lead a nation, doesn't mean you're not making a difference. Be brave, be strong, and follow your heart, no matter what other people say.

I love the Annie Liebowitz Vanity Fair cover. What do you think?

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

3 VERY EASY Ways to Read Someone's Energy

I am very good at reading someone's character in a session (i.e. Mary will ask about Mark, and I will right away be able to tell her if he is decent or if he's a scumbag). In person, though, in my own life, I have to work at things, because my ego gets all wrapped up in relationships and I can't tell whether or not I'm being super clear about how I'm seeing people and situations.

Looking back over the years, I can tell you a few very interesting things that came up right away when I met certain people. I remember meeting one dear friend and just knowing instantly that I loved this person and knew her "from before." On the flip side, one of THE MOST telltale warning signs that has worked best for me is if someone has the look of "crazy" in their eyes. I know that look, I have seen that look, and when I see it, it's time to run. Aside from that, though, I get lazy when it comes to inviting people into my life, or figuring out what the deal is between us. That's not good, because it can lead to problems. You'd think that with all these years of learning how to be psychic under my belt, I'd be a little more discerning with people, right? Well, you'd be correct, and I am working harder now to read people's motives and understand their personalities before I decide to work with them, or be friends with them. As for family, you can't change them, but you can figure out why they act the way they do and not blame yourself. More on family in another post.

That little diatribe aside, you don't have to spend years and years learning how to develop your psychic/intuitive abilities in order to read someone's energy. You can pretty much figure it out in a few different ways. Here are 3 of the easiest:

1. Look into their eyes.

Yes, it's true: the eyes are the window to the soul. But you can really easily develop a way to read someone by checking out their eyes. Do they look truthful and sincere? Or is there a hint of wickedness? I remember a job interview I had ages ago, and one moment in which the woman got a weird look to her eyes. She crinkled them up and looked at me oddly. She was normal enough I guess, but a horrible person to work with/for - she buttered up the higher-ups, and then gossiped, spread rumors, and became BFFs with the HR ladies, establishing a sense of court-like hierarchy for herself. I probably shouldn't have accepted that job offer but hey, live and learn.

2. Notice how YOU feel in their presence.

If you are reading this, you are probably a sensitive, intuitive person anyway. If you weren't, you wouldn't care about this type of subject, right? So this is going to be SUPER easy for you. Just do a gut-check and see how you feel around someone. If you feel depressed, anxious, or uneasy in any way, and you didn't feel like that before you were around that person, there's your clue. Either they are having a bad day or are in a bad mood, OR they just have stinky energy. If you'd like, give them another chance and see how they are the next time you are around them, and you'll be able to tell from there.

3. Look at what they're wearing, watch their body language, and, above all else, LISTEN to what they are saying.

While it is true that beauty is only skin deep, people will show you a lot about who they are by how they dress, how they carry themselves, and, most importantly, by what they talk about. For example, if you know someone who is always complaining, or who gossips or speaks ill of other people, chances are they'll gossip about you, too. And who needs THAT?

You can play a little game with yourself where you notice what people are wearing, how they are acting, and what they're saying, and then make up a narrative about who they are; like a little story. This is not about snooping or getting into someone's business - this is a valuable exercise that will help you discern whether or not certain people will be good for you to engage with.
It is wonderful to give people the benefit of the doubt, to look past appearances and see the gem of a soul within, but sometimes you really have to be clean and clear about who people are, and have boundaries regarding who you let into your life. Respect yourself and your energy, and practice reading people before you get involved with them!

For more info on how to do readings, check out Activate Your Psychic Super Powers, the program my friend Debra Lynne Katz and I developed, which is based on her book, You are Psychic: The Art of Clairvoyant Reading and Healing. It leads you through doing a reading in an easy, step-by-step method over the course of 8 weeks.

Good luck with reading people, and let me know how it goes in the comments below!