Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Do You Have Abandonment Issues?

I've been learning this new healing process called The Emotion Code. I've been working with a couple of healers on personal issues, and experimenting with using it on myself and others.

Recently, during a session, I hit a MAJOR nerve related to my abandonment issues. Through the Emotion Code method, I worked on releasing abandonment from when my mom divorced my dad when I was 3, stuff leading up to that when I was 2 that I don't remember, fear of abandonment from when I was en utero and my mom was told by her doctors that she and I would both die if she didn't abort me (she had cancer), and then, of course, the ultimate abandonment: when she died when I was 15.

Of course, any terrible painful emotional experience is an opportunity for the soul to learn and to grow. So I decided to tune into my spirit guides about the spiritual meaning behind abandonment issues.

Here's what came through:

1. Abandonment does not really exist. People come, and people go. Humans are not made to live forever, nor are animals. The spirit lives on, and in spirit, we are all one. What you perceive as abandonment in the form of death is merely a transition from one vibrational level to another. From density to light. From timefulness to timelessness. There is no time in the world of energy. Time does not exist.

2. Any and all loss you endure is temporary. In the true nature of the universe, loss does not exist. We are all comprised of energy, and energy never disappears. In the earth plane, it might feel as though loss is forever, but it is not.

3. The physical human body experiences agonizing pain and suffering. Not only does the physical body suffer, but the emotional body suffers as well. It might be simple to say that this is an illusion, but while in the flesh, it is difficult to see this as such. These sufferings are very traumatic and devastating. If a human can overcome them, see that even the suffering is an illusion, soothe and nurture the soul, and see and feel and live in the light, the soul will grow and evolve in this lifetime, and a great lesson will be learned.

4. Your ego perceives abandonment as the ultimate rejection, which contributes to you feeling worthless of love, worthless of anything. If you think about the other person's path and what led them to leave you, realizing that you personally actually have very, very little to do with their decision, you will find some relief.

5. Humans have a great fear of being left alone. Being abandoned in some cases causes people to feel rejected. As if not only were they rejected by one or several people, but perhaps they deserve to be rejected by the whole human race. This is about being separate from others, when in fact, we are all one. There is no separation. All is one and one is all. It is an illusion that we are separate from one another, and this illusion causes great pain. See the whole for what is is, and know that you are no less deserving of rejection than the man or woman sitting next to you. We are all the same.

6. Completely succumbing to the pain of abandonment is a way to avoid your own power. By feeding the fear and sorrow, you focus on that, and forget the truth: that you are more powerful than you could ever believe. You are limitless.

If you're interested in learning more about The Emotion Code, check out this link. The healer I work with personally is amazing, so if you feel like you could benefit from working with her, email her by clicking these words and let her know you heard about her through krishanti.com.

Have you suffered from abandonment issues, how did you cope? Have you healed yet? If so, how long did it take?

Tuesday, November 11, 2014

Karma - You Can't Escape It!

Picture this: you're born. Ta-daaaa!

And for some reason completely unbeknownst to you, somebody already has it written into your life plan that they will hate you, or hurt you, or make your life really really hard for reasons that make no sense to you at all whatsoever. Just because of...


Karma can be created in this lifetime, or it can carry over from other lifetimes. People will do things to you that you totally didn't deserve in this lifetime, because of something you did to them in another lifetime. Cycles that you don't necessarily WANT to repeat, will repeat, because of karma. You will have to fight battles you don't want to fight and learn lessons you might not want to learn, because of karma.

Karma 101:

Karma is like one of those laws of the universe that is written in stone. It's a balancing of the scales. You do something bad, something bad is done to you. You do something good, something good comes back to you. It makes great sense in this lifetime, and it's easy to rationalize. Let's say as a teenager, you shoplift some eyeshadow. The next week, your backpack gets stolen. Karma! That's so simple and perfect, right? I love it. The kind of karma that's harder to figure out is the kind that has to do with bigger things, like why you can't get along with a certain person, or why the same things keep happening to you over and over again, or why you had to be born into certain circumstances.

Karma and Relationships:

I love doing past life readings, because they are just so enlightening and fascinating to watch and understand. I've noticed that it seems like people have very similar relationships with the other people in their lifes, life after life after life. It's almost as if, until the lesson is learned (for those negative relationships), the cycle will continue until the karma is resolved. How is the karma resolved? By seeing the issue for what it is - like getting to the root of the matter - then removing the energetic charge, for the most part, with true unconditional love and forgiveness, thereby breaking the karmic cycle.

Karma and Money:

Some people seem to have it all, right? While others struggle and toil and just can't get ahead. Let's say, life after life after life, you were just the richest person in the land. You were born into money and never really had to work. But your soul got bored, and decided that in this lifetime, you'd set it up so you'd have to work HARD to earn what you get, and you'd experience just what it was like to struggle, and to actively try and manifest wealth on your own. Bummer for you, right? But in a sense, it would be really quite fun and interesting to see how you meet the challenge from a spiritual perspective. Do you overcome it, realize how powerful you truly are, and create the life you want, or do you succomb to misery and sorrow over your lot in life?

Karma and Health:

It is tragic and unfair when people are born with disabilities, or have to struggle with health issues at any point in their lives. Everyone's karma is different around this and it's really complicated. Some people have disabilities and health issues to teach others in their lives how to learn compassion; they are the most fundamentally pivotal spiritual teachers of all. Others have disabilities to learn how to cope in life with a vessel that doesn't function optimally. Whatever the case is, karma as it pertains to health and the physical body is the most hardcore karma there is. And yet, some people master it beautifully, and not only thrive in life, but teach and inspire others as well.

There's No "Umbrella" Solution to Karma

It's surprising to thing of the billions of situations people could have been in, and things they could have done, that could cause karma to play out in this lifetime. Every single person has a unique set of circumstances and situations that contribute to their karma. If you're seeking answers, one of the most helpful arenas to delve into would be the whole past life connection. Brian Weiss is one of the leaders in past life studies, and his first book, Many Lives, Many Masters, is a classic.

If you think there's some karma you're paying for now that you incurred in a past life, a past life regression could definitely help you figure things out so that you can hopefully work on balancing out the karmic scales. Brian Weiss has some really great past life regression CD's, or you can find a hypnotherapist to work with.

If you think you're doing things to incur more bad karma now, you can obviously stop what your doing and change your path, and make up for it. It's never too late to apologize, make amends, change your thoughts, change your actions, and balance your karma out that way.

What's your karma like this time around? Do you think it's fair?

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

My Crisis about being a SPIRITUAL Person

I had an off day yesterday...

It was one of those days where you question your whole life's purpose. What am I doing? Why am I doing it? And is it what I really SHOULD be doing?

You know the kind of day I'm talking about, right? One of those days when you have a Crisis of Confidence.

Crisis of Confidence

But let me provide some context for my own personal "Crisis of Confidence." My work – which is really all about helping people – is essentially based in spirituality: the whole mind-body-spirit connection, if you will. But I don't particularly feel or look like a spiritual person. In my mind’s eye, a spiritual person looks like a monk, or a shaman, or a prophet. And here I am, looking like another regular old person off the street.

To compound matters, I don’t always feel like a spiritual person. 

Practical Matters 

I’m a mom and a wife, and that takes up a LOT of my time. And when I’m busy being a mommy and wife – cleaning, running errands, cooking dinner, taking my son to the park, seeing friends and family – I don’t always necessarily feel connected to my spirituality. Whereas I imagine a spiritual person would spend most of their day meditating, walking contemplatively, and dutifully executing their spiritual service. I realize that’s an exaggeration, but nevertheless it’s stuck in my mind. 

Identity Crisis 

But perhaps the more telling aspect of my crisis is that I don't WANT to be a spiritual person all the time.

Here again, I imagine, on one hand a sombre monk or nun, and on the other a crunchy, granola-y hippie-sh type of person. Certainly not the kind of people who would appreciate my irreverent sense of humor, or my shopping-happy bargain hunting, or my love for binge watch trashy TV (Netflix + Pretty Little Liars = my downtime), or drinking coffee and wine. No, the sombre group would be in prayer or at church.

And the hippie-ish group would be eating ONLY vegan food (which I love, just not all the time), doing yoga faithfully, and wearing only free-trade garments as they glide through the forest. 

Spiritual Hypocrisy 

I've also noticed that a lot of spiritual people are full of baloney.

They act like they are super spiritual. But really they’re just as chock full of faults and bad behaviors and negative thoughts as everyone else.

My mom followed her own sort of spiritual "guru" for years when I was little. And that woman was a total hypocrite, which I realized even then.

She prayed, meditated, read the bible, sang spiritual songs really loud, and did all sorts of "spiritual" things. Then she’d turn around and talk crap about everyone, criticizing the whole world and everyone in it for not being good enough.

And the motives of more than a few modern day “spiritual icons" seem less than selfless. A lot of them seem like image-obsessed, shameless self-promoters, hungry for wealth and fame. Everyone thinks they’re so TOGETHER and EVOLVED because of their spiritual persona and public success. But if you do a little digging, you discover their lives are just as messed up as the average “regular person.” 

Just a Regular Person (Not a Spiritual Guru) 

I guess my point with all of this is: I’m just a regular person. I'm not more spiritual or holy than anyone else. I’m just NOT.

That’s why I constantly reiterate that I LEARNED to do readings and energy healings. And I didn’t do it because I’m pious or hippie-sh or seeking fame and fortune. It was just a natural extension of my personal search for emotional healing, life purpose, and an attempt to understand the nature of life and the universe as a whole.

By doing readingss and healings, I'm learning a lot about life, and the human struggle, and lots about the nature of reality. Writing about those discoveries and sharing them is fun and enlightening. 

Doing readings and energy healings doesn’t have to a spiritual practice. But when you enter an altered state of mind, you often forget about being human, and you enter into the raw flow of information, which can be incredibly revealing. The quantum field of energy connects you with the universe’s flow, and the connection opens windows and doors of the collective unconscious. 

Crisis Averted 

In any event, my crisis is over for now. I feel like as long as I stay humble, and true to the path, things will be fine. I can be a regular person with spiritual interests, but I don't have to become a nun or go live on a mountaintop just yet.

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Are Haunted Houses for Real?

In honor of Halloween week, I thought I'd tackle the whole "haunted house" deal. Do haunted houses really exist? From the things I've experienced personally, as well as what I've seen and heard in sessions with clients, yes, I think they do. You won't catch me running around trying to find them, either; as a super sensitive person, haunted houses are the types of places I'll do anything to steer clear of!

What is a haunted house?

A haunted house is typically a building in which a spirit or scary entity exists. It can also be a space in which something horrible occurred, and the molecular memory of the awful event lingers, making the energy of the space seem oppressive and yucky for sensitive people to be in.

Why are some houses haunted?

Some houses are haunted because spirits of the people who lived there are still hanging around on the earth plane and haven't crossed over to the other side. There are lots of different reasons why spirits don't cross over. Some have "unfinished business," and some are in a state of trauma and just don't want to, or are not able to, leave.

Can haunted houses hurt people?

Absolutely! But not in the way that movies depict. Ghosts can't hurt you - they just try and scare you. First of all, if you are sensitive, a haunted place will give you the creeps. I remember visiting a witchy voodoo shop in New Orleans, and an old plantation house in South Carolina, that both gave me the heeby jeebies. I just wanted to get the heck out of there. Secondly, if you hang around in a space that is haunted by ghosts or ghoulish things, you will start to feel bad both physically and mentally. You might get headaches, or you might start to get depressed or anxious. This is because those energies can have an impact on your aura as well as your nervous system. Some energies will play with electrical fixtures and make noises that go bump in the night, so they can really scare you - which of course isn't good for your overall well being.

Can you clear a haunted house?

Some places can be cleansed and cleared by a feng shui master or healing/clearing professional, yes. Others, not so much. There's like a negative imprint in the ley lines of the earth that adversely affect the space. Remember that movie Poltergeist, where they moved into a new housing community built over sacred Native American burial grounds? No good! Same thing happens in real life. In fact, one summer while I was in college some friends and I lived across from the Veterans cemetery. That was the weirdest summer ever, and everything felt turned around and upside down. I think in retrospect it had something to do with the location.

How can you know for sure a house is haunted?

If you see ghostlike apparitions floating around at night, just like in the movies, you don't need to get your eyes checked; the place is haunted. Some people really do see these things, and they're not necessarily people who see spirits all the time. Scary, huh? If you are in a place and you just have a funny feeling that you're being watched, or that you're not the only one in the room, I'd say there's a 90% chance it's haunted, and a 10% chance you're just being paranoid.

How do you make sure the house your buying isn't haunted?

First of all, just try and stay there long enough to get a sense of the place. Go there in the evening or at night. Go into each room, and close your eyes, and try and notice how you feel, and what your impressions are. Do you feel happy or sad? Calm or anxious? Houses definitely hold the energy of the people who lived there in the past, and with practice, you will find that some places absolutely have sad vibes, while others have happy ones. Pick the place with a happy vibe.

Have you ever been in a real haunted house? How could you tell? What did you notice?


Tuesday, October 21, 2014

The Truth about Soul Contracts

"All the world's a stage, and all the men and women merely players."

- William Shakespeare

The other day, my best friend from high school and I were catching up on the phone, and she casually mentioned that it looks like her dad is going to be leaving this world soon. We talked about him, what's going on in his life, and circled back to the same thing we usually circle back to when he comes up: how can somebody be such a jerk, and what was the whole point of his life?

If we're all here to make a difference in the world, and to contribute to the planet and the people of the planet, how come some people seem to just have nothing to do with that program whatsoever? Her dad was a selfish man who didn't really do anything for anyone, who abandoned his wife with 7 young kids, one of whom had a disability, and never paid child support, leaving them to struggle in near poverty.

Before I had a moment to think about it, I just blurted this out: "Maybe he's not such a jerk...maybe his soul is really awesome, and he volunteered to be the asshole this time around, to teach all of you how to survive without a father, to learn how to take care of yourselves despite the odds..." and she added "And to get over our mistrust and hatred of men because of what a bad role model he was!" We talked about it some more, and thought that was an interesting concept. Maybe her dad had a soul contract with her mom and all the kids, one where he purposely contributed to their suffering, so that they could overcome major obstacles, learn, and grow.

With that in mind, I thought it would be interesting to explore the whole "Soul Contract" thing today.

What is a Soul Contract?

A soul contract is an agreement between souls that spells out what your relationship as humans will be like. Two souls can decide to offer each other unconditional love and support. Or they can decide to be at odds with each other for one reason or another.

What are Soul Contract Lessons About?

Soul contract lessons can be about anything you can think of. The fun, lovely ones are about unconditional love, understanding, support, and mutual respect. The hard ones are about power struggles, abandonment, disrespect, hatred, and violence.

Fun Soul Contracts
The souls with whom you have "fun" soul contracts help you get through this life. They can be relatives, friends, co-workers, romantic partners. My best friend from high school, for example, has been a beacon of light in my darkest hours, always understanding my very soul and being kind, patient, and understanding with me when others were not. Kind and supportive soul mates can inspire you to be kind and supportive to others in turn. They help get you through life, and teach you things in an easy way.

Not-so-Fun Soul Contracts

The not-so-fun soul contracts help you co-create situations where you are challenged to overcome duress and learn and grow. These are your abusive parents, your evil bosses, romantic partners who throw you under the bus. If you can get past the personal insults and awful feelings and situations these people create in your life, you grow, big time. The end goal is peace, harmony, and unconditional love for yourself, and for your perpetrators.

Can a Soul Contract be Broken?

You won't really know you have a soul contract with someone until you start to realize what's happening between the two of you, and then acknowledging that you REALLY don't want that anymore. If you're in a bad romantic situation with someone, for instance, yes, you can absolutely break the contract by walking away from the relationship, letting go of the person, forgiving them, forgiving yourself, and moving on with your life.

If you can't walk away from the relationship - for instance, if your soul contract is with your deadbeat dad - the best thing you can do is get to a place where they don't trigger negative emotions in you. Then, if you work on loving their souls (it's hard to love the ego-personality of someone who intentionally causes you pain), you can forgive and release them, and find freedom for yourself.

Do Soul Contracts Remain the Same from Lifetime to Lifetime?

From what I've seen in hundreds of past life readings, it appears that people tend to run the same patterns with other people. For example, I'll have people give me a list of 10 names of people in their lives, and they'll just laugh because the past life patterns with those people are similar to what they are experiencing now. There are no hard and true rules, though, and when it comes to karma, the tables do turn; I've seen people switch roles with each other over the ages.

How Can You Tell What Contracts You Have with People?

If you want to know more about the contracts you have with people in your life, all you really have to do is think a little bit about how certain people make you feel, and the bigger picture of why that might be. You can take it a step further and use your imagination, pretending your life is a fairy tale, and imagining what roles different people play. I guarantee you, you won't be off base.

If you're tired of the way a certain relationship is playing out, think about how you can stop the negative interactions and end the cycle. Just because a soul contract exists doesn't mean you can't use your free will to break it, shift it, and shatter the illusion that we have to struggle and suffer in disharmony in this lifetime.

What soul contracts give you the most grief in this lifetime. How are you working on breaking the cycle?